WAW1

[PositivelyMommy]

So Mark,

Have you thought about some things you can anticipate for your kids? I wanted you to think about them on your own for awhile before I give you all the answers. Let me know some of the things you thought of and we can discuss those. Anything at all that comes to mind. Put it down in a list form. Anything is better than nothing. You can do it.

As for communication with women. As I mentioned John Gray does an amazing job explaining different communication codes between men and women. If you are not sure what women are saying, just ask.

E.g.( not real but just as a starting point)
Wife: Do you think the kids should have pizza for dinner? (Read: I think you should take the kids out for pizza for dinner. OR I don't think the kids should have pizza again for dinner as it is unhealthy)

Husband: (Not sure which way the wife is leaning) I am happy to take the kids out to dinner if they want. But if they want a nice cooked meal, maybe I can cook up something simple at home. What do you think?
(This is called the 'I am helpful, I am anticipating their needs, and I am covering my ass strategy' Also respectful of her opinion.)

Wife: (This is when the woman reveals what is really in her heart or maybe when she realizes what she really wants when presented with a choice) I think it will take too long for you to cook something up tonight and the kids will get really hungry by the time you get home from the park. Why don't you take them out for a meal before you drop them off at my place.

Husband: (Got it) I'd be happy to (SMILE, even on phone, it comes across). You can count on me. The kids will be fed and happy by the time I drop them off tonight.
(This comment exudes confidence, capability, someone you can count on. Helpful and gives wife a picture that her kids will be well taken care of, which is her MAIN concern.)


Now, get working on anticipating children's needs. I will check back.