Glam, I am sorry.This is a terrible blow for you. You have been here before and you seem to make decisions but then you either change your mnd or your H does what you feel is a baby step (I personally hate that phrase) I don't know when it changes or when your life begins but I do know as long as you choose to stay on his merrygo round this will be the continual pattern. To have to send my d away for a month because of childcare issues and my so called husbands' inability to step up well that would be more than enough for me to say enough is enough but that is me and you are a very patience soul but I do have to wonder and I have said this before if you continue as you are what will change. Standing is admirable but Glam are you actually standing or are you kneeling, doubled over with the weight and pain of the burden you are carrying? Glam this isn't meant to sound harsh but I am really worried about you and your health and back problems etc. Please take the month to really consider if you can find or make a better life. ((()))Has your H even said anything about how he could help you out or said he knows how hard you are working and he knows how much you will miss your d, or even that he will?
I say all this with the hope/risk that other posters will offer a completely different viewpoint but such is the beauty of this site. Bottomline is it is your life your choice. Take care
