By the way, I think the relevant posts are not by Snodderly, but by Heart's Blessing. As well as describing each stage she had a timeline that, in my H's case at least, was dead on.

I continue to feel that your ex has a very good chance of coming back to you (even if he isn't sure about that yet). However, unless he faces the reasons for his depression and self-loathing (and therefore the reasons he felt the need to run from your relationship), it's going to be impossible to build anything better than you had before, or to guarantee that it will last. How do the stars look for a continued future with him, btw?