In your sitch, I don't think your W is pursuing. She's coping with the sitch by having you as a security blanket that she doesn't want to let go of to look at herself. Or at least that's my read. She didn't want to go to IC, she complains that she has "anger" towards you that she can't let go of, She gripes about how you were in the past and how much she had to deal with; AND YET, she calls you constantly and complains about you be "cold" when you have nothing to say.
It's all in her and there has to come a time where she's going to have to face that. However it's hard for her to do that when you're always around to be the person she can talk to, yet turn around and blame.
She's the one suffering from insecurity and low self-esteem which is why you have to remain strong. My W was the same way. It wasn't until after we were separated and she continued to get angry at me for no apparent reason that I put my foot down and told her that she was the cause of most of her problems not me, that she stopped and LISTENED.
Again, you're still early in this, so just take it patiently. Don't listen to your friends or therapist if you disagree. My T was surprised I actually got her to come back to the house because he thought her mind was made up and our M was dead. Only you can decide when to give up.
The confusion of continuing or not is going to be with you for a very long time. Just understand that that's the case and put it in a little corner of your mind.
What are your plans for the weekend?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
