I think what we are all trying to say on our own way is don't be angry when you talk to him, be pleasant and engaging. If you are having a hard time putting aside anger and hurt so is he. There is a lot of finger pointing going on and with no one willing to change, the cycle will continue.
Be the one to break it. Hugs.
kat PS, I am NOT trying to upset you, just maybe trying to get you to see the sun from another perspective.
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory