K (the extra special one of course): << H called once and sounded... super friendly and warm. I kept it short and polite. Yes why didn't you flirt a bit? Like tell him what a beautiful day it is and which skimpy bathing suit you'll be wearing.
<< I dont think he has an on going affair but he has told me he is still in some contact with the woman I believe he had the affair with. Did you tell him how you feel about this and that you are going to continue to feel this way as long as he does it?
<< MY ISSUE is that I dont feel anything from him. I dont feel loved, cared for, I dont see remorse or any efforts to come closer to me. We know that you know how you feel and that's very important. And how does he feel about you? Does he know you know how he feels?
<< I think he has not changed at all and always and still looks for the easy way out. And that bothers me a lot. You can't force him to change, so why bother about something not in your control?
<< Where we have been, there is NO easy way out from. He cant do the work. Whether it's by choice or whether he is incapable of it, I dont know. He likes to do work doesn't he? Can you lead him to do a nice piece of work that he'll get addicted to?
<< The fact remains that 7 months later, we are still angry with each other and havent "connected" at all. Set the anger aside, its a side effect of hurt. Did you tell/show him where it hurts?
<< I dont know how to end it. I am having a hard time with it. Dont know why. You are afraid. What are you afraid of?
