WAW/Affair Exposed - Advice? #3

[DCBHM]

Hey DC,

Did your W ever respond to your letter? I just read it and it was a great letter.

Nope. I do know she has read it, or at least opened it. She got it last Sunday. My exposure went off on last Saturday around 2:30pm. I noticed in my sent folder lots of the people were forwarding the email - I assume to her. I heard through the grapevine threats of "Restraining Order" but that has since died down afaik. Haven't even heard from my attorneys about it, and I sent them copies of everything as well on Sunday.

I do know several of the people who have read it, and none of them have spoken to me about it. I'm sure many people are discussing it, mulling it over, not wanting to get involved, etc. - but in a legal sense my objective is also to neutralize potential negative advocates she was building up in the distortion campaign.

Have been mulling over the idea of truth darts... seems like it will either escalate her behavior or cause it to collapse. i.e.

"The real victims of your behavior are the children you promised to put before yourself."

"How would you feel if your mother had left your father for an alcoholic who lived with his parents? How will D1 feel?"

I suppose I will hold off on any of those until she chooses to continue parading around next door. I also need to make them as neutral/court-friendly as possible, so I'm going to need to be very careful with the wording if I do choose to go that route.

"I told her my date of June 1 I'm giving to see positive traction. She told me she'd advise May 1... so I'm guessing I should consider some things."

I concur. She brings out a vengeful side of you. that they are waiting to use against you. best to leave these people alone. there is something wrong with them in the head.

I agree, and as much as I try not to emotionally respond it is difficult to detach 100%.

If I ever do hear that she wants to reconcile there is a long list of preconditions meant to guard myself financially and legally that she would never accept.