Need to really make changes for me (thread #3)

[kat727]

Vicky just remember anything worth doing takes work. If it were easy there would never be anything worth having. I think you need to have a clear vision in your mind what you are working towards. Give yourself a few back-ups if you find yourself tempted. Make yourself walk for half an hour if you are tempted to call him. Call a friend to help get your mind off of him...DO NOT talk about him with the friend. Come here and vent.

I used to talk to my ex everyday before this affair happened. It was hard when he moved out but groveling is not attractive. Obviously, I didn't save my marriage and as you can see on my posts even 9 months post divorce, he still invades my existence. I just know that I am better off without talking to him any more than absolutely necessary. You will be too.

hang in there.

kat