LBS need help and support #2

[faithisbelieving]

Song...I support whatever you decide to do, but, I must play the balance. I post this as reading and thought...and JMO.

Men are so blind to this in their state of insecurity and seeing a world of scarcity, they don't want to see it. Men want to see everything returning to the status quo; it is the goal we are driven toward by virtue of brain wiring. You've seen it yourself. When a man sees his current situation as the only viable option, he will become a martyr if that's what it takes to keep his domicile intact, else he sees himself has having failed as a man; he failed to protect the integrity of the domicile.

That is why only a rational man who can think logically about his life and situation can overcome. Such a man sees a world of abundance, knows that the only scarce resource is his own time and life and treats every situation in such a ay as to protect his time and life and make it serve him, through fair trade, not deceit.........You may have noticed that both genders try and deceive the man. Men will lie to themselves to try to keep their family together , while women will lie to men to try to form the ideal situation for them and their kids....there is irrefutable evidence of this, on such a scale as to leave no other possible conclusion. It's reality, good, bad or indifferent, and if men are to live happily with women, they have to recognize this and arrange their life in such a way as to minimize the potential for abuse. Unfortunate, but self-evident.

w- "It will be hard for them at first, but in the long run they will be better off because they will have closure. Living in limbo like we are now isn't good for them."

me- "So you're saying that they will be better off if we get divorced"

w- "Yeah, I think they will. Right now they are so confused wondering what's going to happen. They need closure so we can all move on."

Sadly...I agree with her. She sounds totally rational and being in the same position as she is but opposite.....she speaks soundly. I'm sorry. If you can get her to separate first before D, perhaps you can work it. Unfortunately, the statistics show that the majority of women who separate go on to divorce their H's.
FIB