Lan, To echo everything said above yet again ... good you are finally catching the bull directly by the horns and being a real BAMF (Bad As? MF)- many of us get to this point after years of 'head in the sand' from fear, insecurity, denial, ignorance, etc.
As far as going to MC to help with getting a D - my W pulled that one on me after we went a couple of times. I was willing to go IF she really wanted to work on the M - that's what MC is for in my book. You need to get this straight at the outset and have these cards put on the table in front of the counselor at the outset otherwise its useless.
