Ya i agree i think i will call them today, it my nieces Bday. W is suppose to drive over there after work (4hr trip). I will call them wish her a happy Bday and talk to BIL about not saying anything im sure he wont and he wants us to save our M as much as i do. But will tell him that i am good and will be good. He sent me a text at 0130 this morning saying "hope u are feeling better 2morrows a brighter day keep ur head up". (he works night shift). and hes right today is better than yesterday and tomorrow will be better than today.