I've come full circle #26

[kat727]

Ex is now mad that I had s16 pay even a portion of the bill since he gives me sooo much money. I didn't mention it to him, this is between s16 and I. I firmly believe that he is responsible for the additional amount and needs to pay it off. Ex, in the true form he was raised, sent me an e-mail asking why money was taken from his(s16's account) without his knowledge. Why was s16 paying anything, this was my responsibility and should have more than enough money to pay for it.

The man has no principles. Our son made a mistake, one of many to come and he needs to know that there are consequences for those mistakes. He needs to pay the bill. Will it be a painful lesson, yes. I was almost in tears I was so upset about it, but I held my ground. S16 was remorseful, understood the gravity of the situation, no credit to fall back on...just cash to pay bills, buy groceries, clothes etc. Now because of this some things need to be put on hold.

My take is that this situation is between the two of us. Ex wouldn't even have known except that he watches the account. My dad used to humiliate the heck out of me when I did things wrong. Paraded my mistakes in front of his friends with me sitting there mortified. I don't think my Dad needed to go that far and so I won't go that far with my kids.

I don't think I am wrong here.

kat