Partner left after 9 yrs -Over with ow yet or not?

[MsMelancoly]

Hey Ali, You did great last night!!!!! Handled yourself so well as to not get pulled into a R talk - well done!!!

I agree with Kalni - enough is enough of the pity party & him trying to explain his guilt. Do you understand his guilt? Then enough of it.

Your XB, my H, ran away because it was easier than to face the fears & unhappiness they felt within. They felt angry at themselves for doing this. Yet the little boy inside their head said to run. Now the man inside their head has to deal with the guilt. (Maybe I'm way off, in my assumption. since you aren't supposed to guess how people feel).

The catch22 is. Your XB, my H, we both know would be happier with us - but will they find & control their own happiness? Or would we again be the source & when unhappiness rears it's ugly head, will they be able to face it? Or will they leave again??

Maybe that's putting the cart before the horse ... a bit ..... but those are thoughts that spin in my head ......