Newly separated...spouse left, 3rd thread

[antlers]

I hope you validated and not blame her for thinking that, it is a shame that this had to happen for me to finally get it. Whatever happens, thank you for doing this to me because I am a better man now than I was, good bye.

Anything like this? or was it a pleading, please don't do this type of call?
It is time for you to act as if she is not coming back, because she may not, but she definitely will not come back if she does not see changes in you.

Burt

Man, I validated everything she said! I didn't blame her for anything! I mentioned that this predicament forced me to take a look at myself and I didn't like what I saw...and I knew that I had to make some positive changes in myself regardless! And that I have, and will continue to do so regardless!
It didn't mean anything ti her though.

There was no begging or pleading, or "please don't do this" by me. I did ask her to please take some time and reconsider before taking that final step, and I let her know that I did not want to divorce. She knows that I've made changes, and it doesn't matter to her. She says that I'm still the same person that hurt her...regardless of my changes. I know that I have to start living that way, like she's not coming back. It's a mutha!

I feel a lot of sadness and despair right now. I feel like even my hope, as faint as it was, has been crushed!