Wow, Lan. So maybe, just maybe, the stuff you snooped up isn't as bad as you thought. For example, maybe she's giving this M friend advice about sex "from the woman's point of view" (we'll just let her own issues slide as we ponder that possibility, OK?)
It seems like you've crossed a threshold here - dropped a bomb on HER, really. So many sitches start with a long period of coasting and not addressing issues, then things build up to an explosion and change comes. Maybe this is the start of some good forward motion for your sitch, after biding your time for too long. I sure hope that's how it goes - keep us posted and hang in there!
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!