Kalni, a yardarm is the cross member in a square rigged sailing ship...where the sails are tied too. It is also the place that the ship's captain could hang you from...now by the neck or some other appendage...that was always the question.
It is always difficult to deal with the unknown with our spouses. It causes fear since we feel like we are not in control. One of the things we learn here is to deal with the facts as we find them...not to assume the worse. I was reminded of that yesterday in my own sitch.
