She says, I'm running late, are you on the phone? I said yes. She said, who with. Now, I know I screwed this up and should have just said a friend but I remembered that she couldn't believe that SS was calling me so I told her it was him--I got the reaction I was hoping for--"Oh, really, ok, I'll be over in a bit."
You didn't screw up. What you said was fine. As long as you keep the pressure off (the key thing is NO PRESSURE)and don't pursue her and let her pursue you, then you will be just fine here.
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Anyway, the wife didn't show up till after 10. She came in and apologized for being so late claiming she had to do some laundry--yeah, ok, whatever. Then she asked if I would mind if she slept in the bed. Sure no problem. At this point, I was ready to go to sleep. She started talking, no relationship stuff, just small talk. I listened and validated some but didn't overdo it.
Not bad. Good job on knowing not to "overdo it"... NEVER overdo it.....
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Then she says good night, pauses for a min and says I love you like she really means it--hey she might but if she really loves me, why did she do what she did? I told her I loved her too. Not jumping up on cloud nine--doesn't mean I not getting a divorce cause I still love her, I know.
You are acting mature. Mature is attractive to women. No pressure... (have you noticed that I keep harping on "no pressure or pursuit on your part?")
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let's not forget who she was trying to look great for though.
Correct.
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So, wife and D leave and I roll over to go back to sleep for 30 min. 5 min later I get a phone call from wife. Says she forgot something, could I please bring it to her at D's school. Sure, I'll be right there. Got there and she wants to tell me about how she got into it w/ another mom that was being rude to my D. Thanks me for bringing stuff and blows me a kiss.
Nothing big here. Good job on your part. Let her keep coming to you. Hold the line. Strong, confident, mature, happy, busy and perfectly fine no matter which way it goes.
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Not a whole lot to anaylze but I'm not paralyzed with fear that she's not coming back anymore and did my best to act like as if she's not.
Nothing to analyze. I keep telling you that the best way to get a woman back is to let her pursue you. Don't change your new gameplan. Go out tonight and have some fun. Keep your thoughts close to your vest. A backslide here would be a critical mistake.
Remember... If she brings up a talk... Your answer should be.. "I am not sure how I feel.. or I don't know right now WHAT I want"...... If she doesn't bring up a talk, then wait her out and HOLD THE LINE HERE....
All in all.. Good job..
Remember... Women are attracted to busy, happy, confident men who are STRONG emotionally and don't tolerate women that don't act and show that they WANT to be with him. Be that man.
