There's the cunundrum - By 'manning up' which most posters feel I need to do to restore pride and respect and also to stop my wife exploiting me will mean taking her on which will involve more arguments, standing my ground etc. Whether this will mean she then calms down and understands my decision could influence how we feel. She has such a strong personality she will argue black is white and she seems to have a clarity when engaging in a row. I seem to lose my train of thought and then my argument loses credibility.
On the other hand the 180's will provide a degree of clarity, purpose and if worked on effectively and duration will negate some of the negativity between us. The boundaries would be set here in a more calm way I feel. If I could also 'man up' during 180's I am getting the best of both worlds. I just need to rewrite my 180's to include a way of restoring respect.
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Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
