The adventure continues- part 4

[AFWAW]

Ok, had some interesting stuff going on last night. SS19 called! Hadn't heard from him in about 1 1/2 weeks. Asked how I was doing talked about his job, girlfriend, normal stuff then he says he talked to his mom earlier in the week and she says she offered apartment to him if he wanted to move back down as she wants to go home. I didn't say anything. I don't know why she would tell him that as he isn't necessarily affected by it. Funny, thing is the wife called when I was talking to SS. She says, I'm running late, are you on the phone? I said yes. She said, who with. Now, I know I screwed this up and should have just said a friend but I remembered that she couldn't believe that SS was calling me so I told her it was him--I got the reaction I was hoping for--"Oh, really, ok, I'll be over in a bit."

Anyway, the wife didn't show up till after 10. She came in and apologized for being so late claiming she had to do some laundry--yeah, ok, whatever. Then she asked if I would mind if she slept in the bed. Sure no problem. At this point, I was ready to go to sleep. She started talking, no relationship stuff, just small talk. I listened and validated some but didn't overdo it. Then she says good night, pauses for a min and says I love you like she really means it--hey she might but if she really loves me, why did she do what she did? I told her I loved her too. Not jumping up on cloud nine--doesn't mean I not getting a divorce cause I still love her, I know.

In the morning, she gets up and starts getting ready and exclaims that wow, I've lost so much weight, my thighs are so thin. Then she walks in and says I'm not trying to get sexy but feel my butt. (yeah, ok you tease, whatever) So, I did and said "Very nice!" I must say, the old Mrs. AFWAW did nothing but cut herself down so while I still see a woman who has to be the center of attention and low self-esteem, she at least isn't complaining about her body all the time--and she does look great--let's not forget who she was trying to look great for though.

So, wife and D leave and I roll over to go back to sleep for 30 min. 5 min later I get a phone call from wife. Says she forgot something, could I please bring it to her at D's school. Sure, I'll be right there. Got there and she wants to tell me about how she got into it w/ another mom that was being rude to my D. Thanks me for bringing stuff and blows me a kiss.

Not a whole lot to anaylze but I'm not paralyzed with fear that she's not coming back anymore and did my best to act like as if she's not. Going out tonight and maybe tomorrow night too. Before I went to Iraq, I sure never thought in a million years this would be happening to me.

Funny thing happened at work the other day. Young guy comes into my office and starts talking about interactions w/ his fiance. A lot of the stuff he says about interactions, arguements, etc. remind me of my relationship. So, I offered him my copy of Hold on to your N.U.T.S. and recomend he go buy the 5 love languages. Well, 4 or 5 days later he comes to me smiling. I said, what's up? He tells me about setting boundries, not arguing anymore, better interactions all the way around and thanks me over and over. Damn, I wish I would have had this knowledge years ago. I hope he has more success than I've had. I have to keep telling myself every morning that I didn't do anything wrong. I know what I could have done better in the marriage though. I have the knowledge and am standing by to apply if I get the chance again.