At FIL suggestion and after talking with a friend at work, I sent an email to H tonight. I've been dark for over a month with little reaction so maybe the 180 hasn't been effective (or I just got impatient!). Time will tell.
But since FIL thought I needed to reach out, and he's the only one that H is talking to that is talking to me, I figured it's worth a shot.
Said something to the effect of 'hope you're doing well. The time apart as giving me time to think, reflect and move forward. Hope it's been good for you too. When you're ready (vs. other people's timelines), i think the kids would like to talk. They care about you regardless of our situation and if you want me to be there or talk beforehand, let me know. also said i hoped he was finding some happiness and doing well'. Tried to be friendly but not pushy - he needs to reconnect with the kids, but when he's ready - not when others think he should.
Now I go dark again, and watch to see if there's any change. But it seemed like a good idea.. no pressure, just checking in... the worst that can happen is he doesn't respond, i think. the best would be that he'd respond, and maybe we could work on our friendship a little... rebuild that piece by piece and see where it goes.
As far as GAL, I've got a busy weekend planned without the kids home. My sister and I will get together, I am going to play pool with an old friend, getting a pedicure, and working on some craigslist stuff. Trying to move on with life, and become the woman that only a fool with leave.
