Stayed home with D3 she wasnt feeling good and neither was i got some good time in with her.
W sent the usual goodmorning text i returned it
Talk to some friends today one of which was mentioned in a prior post (about her needing help cause her husband was acting crazy). Well she started telling me why she was leaving him and i told her why W said she was leaving me. Well... this is were things get a little rocky.
W text me with:
W: So im leaving "cuz u dont clean the house" huh?????
M: "I'm sorry?"
W: "U talked to (friend) today and said that im leaving cuz u dont clean the house"
ok... thats not what was said at all. that was only said when i was explaining things my wife was fed up about.
Anyways i did not respond to her text im not going to try and defend myself there is no point. i could get on the phone and tell her that it wasnt said like that but it wouldnt matter she would just take it negative so i didnt respond.
Well called W cause D3 wanted to tell her about an "owie" she got yesterday. They talked for a min then i got on the phone told D3 to hurry up and get her shoes on cause we were going to the dog park... W said "your going to the dog park?" (it was great she said it like what do you mean your going to the dog park?) Told her ya we were going to take the dog there. She ask me if i managed to find the dogs that i decided to get rid of a home yet, I told her no. Then she got mad "well why not" blah blah blah i just listened then told her i already made arrangements with the pound to kennel the dogs there until i can find them a home.(all of a sudden she is concerned with the dogs she has turned them over to the pound before while i was out of town on business, and has expressed several times that we should just turn them over to the pound) She didnt say anything else so i told her i had to go cause we were leaving for the dog park she said ok and i hung up. (had a positive tone the whole time we talked)
So... seemed like W was just trying to pick a fight with me. I felt really good about it though cause i didnt fall into her trap lol. Normally i would have argued back and defended myself till the end but i said nothing to keep the fight going and i had a positive tone the entire time (HUGE ACCOMPLISHMENT for me).
I have also felt pretty good today and i explained to mother (she is trying to be so involved in this, She has good intentions) that I'm getting to a point that i dont care what W does, I want her to come back and I want her to come back bad, but that I was going to live my life and if she doesnt come back oh well there is nothing i can do about it. And that if she does come back i would not do this again we will go to counseling and get our issues worked out.(second time W has put me through something like this, First time was nothing like this though) I felt pretty positive to say that and could say it without that gut wrenching feeling in my stomach. So i felt pretty positive. I hope tomorrow is the same as it was today. I still had my moments but no where near what its been the last couple of days.
Mother thinks W is starting to second guess herself a little thats why she was trying to pick a fight with me today. Hope thats true.
Will not be talking to that friend again about my situation. We were having a casual conversation and she immediatly turned around and said something to the W giving her ammo to try and start a fight. Will not make that mistake again.
