It's all ablazin'....

[S.T. _I Made It!]

wow, I'm just wondering why no one has mentioned the fact that he cheated on his girl he cheating on you with.

anyways, I'm with FG. you've got to stop talking. and I love his info on respect. He is correct that almost all guys would rather have respect than love. well, in their minds, respect is love probably. and FG, I would LOVE to hear a bigger explanation too.

B, what you have to realize is that whatever you say, is 99% not going to get him to do what you want. So, being quiet is not going to make things worse. And guys HATE being told what they should do. that's why I always say we should ask them what they think is okay, or what their ideal situation would be.

Now in the case of the carseat, you have asked and he said she likes it better. perhaps that is true, perhaps she doesn't cry as much or something. What you should do first I think is talk to a policeman or fireman and tell them what he is driving and how it is placed and what they think. How you will relay that info, I'm not really sure. maybe you can find out the statistics of injuries or something.

If I was in your shoes, it would be really hard for me. I'm very much a control freak when it comes to my kids.

SMW told me something today. she told her H that it is up to her whether or not he hurts her, it is HER feelings, and she gets to choose to respond to those feelings,

something like that. It is YOU who get to choose if he hurts you or not. Remember, when he is mean, it is because he is hurting. You are his easy target. Stop defending yourself, and stop telling him what he is and isn't doing. When he treats you wrongly, leave. don't even say anything.

even if you think you know your done, you are so very much stuck in this sitch. I know your climbing out, but you can do better.

(((B)))