TEll me Kerry or BND when do you know its time to move on? How do you know. Kerry you are dating now, how did you get to that point?
It is a combination of many things - the cheating, lies, catching an STD, threatening me with divorce, including/exposing the kids in her affair and showing through her actions that she is a cake eating goldigger. I found that I enjoyed spending time with my kids without a selfish spoiled woman controlling things. I had a lot of reflecting over last spring/summer and came to the conclusion that I could never love her again. I dont even want to be her friend - there are several billion other females on the planet that are more worthy. I went through some anger, but not much. I set little goals and always make sure there is something to look forward to.
The advantage I have over you was that I was a loner kind of guy that did many things happily by myself until I got married in my late 30's. I climbed mountains, traveled, fished, hiked, and sailed many times solo and was content being a free and independent man. I was confident that I could refind that happy go lucky guy again.
I am not dating now as I have a girlfriend and we spend most of our time together with the kids. We usually see each other on the weekends, but about once a month we have a kid free date night. I try to talk/IM her everyday. She is a very good friend now and I am taking it slow before making any long term commitments.
