thanks for replying im really confused about my situation the W called tonight and was in good spirits, she is finishing up a big presentation she has. And her presentation is tommorow so she was nervous, i always was her motivator i guess u can say like saying things to help her get thru tough situations...like your good under pressure, you know your stuff dont worry youll be fine. So it felt like she was looking for that tonight i kinda felt like i should have detatched and not gave that to her but wasnt sure so i wanted to help her and be there for her.
Im also really confused because she really wants to be friends and talk and stuff like that, but how can i go dark or make her miss me when she wants to be friends I dont want to lose the friendship.
MsMeloncoly when i met my W i was 15yrs old so i definately was a different person, I was brash a bully and didnt have a very good sense of humor, got into alot of trouble. Now im a pretty layed back guy. To my W sense of humor is everything we laugh alot even now when we r talking we make fun of each other or crack jokes.
I definately agree with what your saying about it not being fair to W to rely on her for happiness, she always says "I cannot be your be all end all". And i really didnt realize the pressure ive been putting on her. With all the stress from school im hoping that when she is done in 2 months we will be in alot better situation, Im trying to be as patient as i can and let her take the time she needs.
