Holding onto Hope

[In Limbo]

This is the second time I've tried to post something and it's just disappeared. Hope it hasn't gone onto someone else's post.

Can someone give some insight into boundary setting with MLCer - how do you set enough boundaries to protect yourself without driving them further away?

So, tonight is the night H is out with OW (hasn't told me, but I know). I was a wreck this morning but then had a sort of scary but not life threatening medical issue today and that got me thinking that with or without H, life goes on and it's up to me what that life is going to be like. I know, DUH, what all the DBers have been saying. H7 had a ballgame tonight so we went and enjoyed that. I can't say I didn't think about H, but can say I didn't obsess about it, didn't cry, etc. I do not plan to ask any questions about it (which is killing me but will only start a fight about me "snooping" and violating his privacy). Tomorrow morning I will try my best "as if." And this crazy life goes on.....