But then I think am I wasting my life. What if I wait and dont go out and date and then 2 years pass and nothing, thats 2 years of me life that I cant get back. That scares me.
SSL,
I have been reading your thread, and I want to jump in here, in spite of my newbie status.
I am 60, and have been separated for less than 5 months, after being together for 40 years -- almost twice as long as you have. I am DBing in earnest, not for my marriage (although I hope it will be restored), but for me. I need to GAL regardless, because the life I thought I had -- and the future I had planned -- is no more. Part of my GtingAL is understanding that it might NOT include a new relationship. Until I find a life that makes ME happy, I will not be a good candidate for a relationship with ANYONE. Who would want a partner who still has unresolved feelings for her ex? Not I, for sure, and I will not put myself out there until I can reach that resolution.
I know you are younger than I, and cannot imagine the rest of your life alone. Your chances of a new relationship, at 40-something, are far higher than mine at 60. They will be even better if you can let go and make your life the best it can be for YOU. The rest will take care of itself. This is the same advice I have given my Ds when their relationships have gone sour, and am now applying to myself.
M 65 H 64 T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08 Two Ds
Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
