The feeling will soon pass the more you detach. Right now you haven't had the chance to detach because you talk to her all the time.
When she stops calling...that's when the anger is going to set in.
I agree with what was said earlier. Stay upbeat and strong when around her, but don't be always accessible. I would say that you haven't even gone "dim" yet because when you do, she accuses you of being "cold". Then you feel guilty and answer all her calls.
Do you see how she's pulling your strings. That's why I'm afraid that once she finds someone else to fill her emotional void, she's going to drop you like a bad habit.
Stay dim now and do not let her actions or reactions control what you do. Live your own life.
Although it's hard to see, she's obviously missing you but won't admit it to herself. It kind of makes you wonder why she felt the need to "escape" from the home when she calls all the time.
I think part of my problem is I try to be Dim/Dark when I do see her - which is why she thinks I am cold. That's when I'm talking to her (either in person or on a call) and all I'm saying is "Oh" or "OK" and not much after that.
I don't answer every call/email/text. When I do answer them, I typically wait about 30 minutes.
I think I understand the balance is don't be accessible 100% of the time (DIM/Dark), but when I do see her, make sure I portray the "Integrated Man" and try to go back to DIM/Dark as quickly as possible
It's a tricky balance but I know this is my last shot.....
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
