Stress, WAW and life in general II

[In Limbo]

Does anyone with experience have suggestions for what to tell the kids and how? How do you tell them it's a separation and not indicate divorce but yet not give them too much hope for reconciliation? How do you not condone the situation (especially when YOU do not want it) without villainizing the other spouse?

AJM - I feel your pain with the confusion. My H has OW (EA) he continues to lie about and is seriously MLC. In one conversation he can say ILY, I'm 95% sure I don't even want to try to save our M and then talk about the vacation we're taking this summer. Makes it a real roller coaster, no? We have also been together 20+ years and are about your same age - high school sweethearts, never dated anyone else. Makes it extra hard when you've invested your life in this person and suddenly they aren't the same person anymore. Hang in there. Sounds like you're doing a lot of things right.