Ok...I'm not officially moderating now. So I'm not going to ban or delete anything.
Still...ya might wanna guard the way you post to this.
Over the many years I have moderated, and posted before that...and the many many things I've seen....
I know folks meet off the board, as friends, and as potential soul mates after hurting for so long.
I just want to give my perspective...not from judgment, but from what I've witnessed.
Most folks are initially disappointed...at least one or other of the parties, and sorry they engaged such close contact. Some are initially enthralled and then really are sorry....and most often prefer their initial spouse.
That means there's most often yet another heartbreak for much more than half of the folks that meet up....as friends or otherwise. And that's so sad, because the relationship was really healing on the board.
If this is in the works for you.......I urge you to really think it over quite abit. If you feel euphoric at all....don't do it. If you are in recent heartbreak, don't do it. If the OTHER person is in recent heartbreak or euphoric, don't do it.
Keep your board friendships. Encourage each other. Help each other grow. Be able to be really honest with each other to work out what you need to work out.
With YOU in mind, sg
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
