In your case, I guess you have the benefit of the OM being in another country. That might actually work out for you, as she can't physically be with him at all....and here's another question...
Is there any way you can contact OM and tell him "look dude, she's a married woman, she may be telling you she hates me and has been emotionally divorced for a long time, but as far as I'm concerned she only started saying that when she found you again on-line...please be a MAN and respect this married man's request to stay away from his wife". ???
