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Re: Calming down CMNM #1760483 04/30/09 08:53 PM
Joined: Nov 2003 Posts: 1,185 C CMNM OP Member
OP CMNM Member C Joined: Nov 2003 Posts: 1,185	No reply yet. I know him. It will take some time. And I am ok with that. Precisely why I sent it. I can wait this time. No expectations, and that is the truth. Matter of fact, I had to run out to my car (in the rain!) to get my phone so I could copy the wording for you here. The old Pam would have been watching that phone like the proverbial pot that never boils.... BND, you have given me a lot to think about. I appreciate your time, patience, and honesty.

Re: Calming down CMNM #1760490 04/30/09 09:02 PM
Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 9,678 Somewhere over the rainbow B brandnewday Member
brandnewday Member B Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 9,678 Somewhere over the rainbow	(((((((((hugs)))))))))) That was so very brave of you and I am proud of you. Have no expectations, as this is all new to both of you. You are changing the steps of the dance!!!! You go girl!!!! There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.

Re: Calming down brandnewday #1760493 04/30/09 09:05 PM
Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 11,646 J Jack_Three_Beans Moderator
Jack_Three_Beans Moderator J Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 11,646	Bold? In one aspect yes very , and good for you...I ws thinking more like: Clothes: floor, you: bed, Don't plan on doing anything else for a few hours. Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet

Re: Calming down Jack_Three_Beans #1760496 04/30/09 09:10 PM
Joined: Nov 2003 Posts: 1,185 C CMNM OP Member
OP CMNM Member C Joined: Nov 2003 Posts: 1,185	Well, if it makes you feel better, Jack, I did call yesterday after he had offered me a ride to work (that I declined) to say: If that ride includes a nooner, I would like to ammend my refusal. The one thing we have going for this is most certainly this: He is NOT going to get it anywhere near as good somewhere else as he does here. I am completely confident that he knows this, too. And, that says a lot, since I have little confidence in anything.

Re: Calming down Jack_Three_Beans #1760497 04/30/09 09:11 PM
Joined: Nov 2003 Posts: 1,185 C CMNM OP Member
OP CMNM Member C Joined: Nov 2003 Posts: 1,185	Originally Posted By: Jack_Three_Beans Bold? Clothes: floor, you: bed, Don't plan on doing anything else for a few hours. I will, however, hold onto this one for future use...

Re: Calming down CMNM #1760498 04/30/09 09:14 PM
Joined: Nov 2003 Posts: 1,185 C CMNM OP Member
OP CMNM Member C Joined: Nov 2003 Posts: 1,185	Oh, and one more thing, for my naysayers... YES, this does change the dance. The dance I have been doing has included not putting myself out there more than he is willing to. Plain and simple, I scare him. It is time to be the safe place.

Re: Calming down CMNM #1760509 04/30/09 09:39 PM
Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 9,678 Somewhere over the rainbow B brandnewday Member
brandnewday Member B Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 9,678 Somewhere over the rainbow	Jack, Get your mind out of the gutter...... It's not always about sex!! OK it's always about sex, BUT.......... There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.

Re: Calming down brandnewday #1760514 04/30/09 09:49 PM
Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 11,646 J Jack_Three_Beans Moderator
Jack_Three_Beans Moderator J Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 11,646	BUT you certainly are in a playful mood. : ) She said Bold... And then she said no VERY bold... Of course my mind went to sex. Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet

Re: Calming down Jack_Three_Beans #1760519 04/30/09 09:54 PM
Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 9,678 Somewhere over the rainbow B brandnewday Member
brandnewday Member B Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 9,678 Somewhere over the rainbow	Yes I am in a good mood. I start a new job on Monday. And have spent the past few days relaxing in the sunshine. And today I took D9 for her last test at the Children's Hospital. And last night I spoke to Pam who was a delightful Woman. And Matt got kicked off American Idol. And I found my brand of smokes for $3.35 a pack. And I ordered pizza for dinner. I have nothing to complain about!! There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.

Re: Calming down brandnewday #1760539 04/30/09 10:21 PM
Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 11,646 J Jack_Three_Beans Moderator
Jack_Three_Beans Moderator J Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 11,646	I quit smoking : ) Going out to see the Young Dubliners tonight, going to Nino's for dinner before hand. No kids. : ) Tomorrow going to 'marry' my best friends. Renew their vows. Congrats on all your good stuff. except the smoking. :p Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet

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