I remember decorating May poles as a child and dancing around them until some parent complained that it was a pagan festival and it shouldn't be celebrated (this was in the 70's in California - ummm...hello....can you say liberal capital of the country? Of course, I lived in ultra-conservative Orange County). It was sad when we didn't do that anymore.
So, what do you all do there K?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I am not sure I want to talk with H tonight. I may have to because he is bringing the kids back and we would have to talk about the weekend. I dont feel I am ready yet... I am such a coward!!!
Our children will (weather permitting) dance around a maypole errected on the village green. An annual tradition, not so much to do with fertility or rites of spring anymore. Maria I think we would call your flower circle a wreath but not in the funeral sense.
Enjoy the Day ours will be on Monday as it is a Bank Holiday,so day off for us. Hope talk or not with H goes well, can you give voice to your fears,once spoken they don't have as much power over us. ((()))
Maria, it sounds like you are not "out" yet....there is no time limit (self imposed or otherwise). Do not pull the plug until you are absolutelly sure. It does not seem like you guys are piecing this long weekend or any other weekend for that matter....but perhaps a cease fire is in order.
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
H came back, gave the kids a bath, fed them souvlakia that he bought for them and we talked a bit about taxes and the weekend and he left. On his was out, since I saw him wearing his coat, taking it off cause my D was crying and putting it on again, I told him when he is done with work, we need to talk. He said "yes we need to talk" loud and clear.
Tonight I got scared again. It feels as holding on to a rope (how strange, always a rope involed) and letting it go while I am falling down a steep canyon. Fear can do weird stuff to ones mind. I am terrified. BUT, I think we are for the first time on the same page. He is done too.
Of course I still have anger while he seems to be ok with that although last weekend a lot of anger showed up.For example tonight I got upset when people kept calling him and he was answering "I will call you later" and I immediately started thinking that he porbbaly goes out tonight that he is off work but he never found the time to go out with me 7 months now. All this is just my mind, I am assuming thigns, I know, still my assumptions ticked me off pretty bad. I didnt show it and stayed calm.
So, it seems Ali will be the only one "making it" from our group. Sad that she is the only one, good for her. GO AL!!!! K
uno, i would not give up so quickly K and secondo, I think we can "make it" even if we are not with our spouses. who knows, maybe we can "make it" better!
