Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Those were the days! Maybe some of them pirates might learn to be nicer with a little Keelhauling (using the keel of a Nimitz class carrier).
I am impressed as usual with your tolerance of this BS. Also, I like your advice on Mulesqb's thread about letting the kids formulate their own opinions over time.
I am wishing you the best and hoping your agony in this legal process ends soon.
BTW... My legal/financial D stuff is winding down and I have been divorced for almost 5 months. It is kind of funny that it took me a day to get married and a year and a half to undo that.
Difficult day I am sure. You invest 10 years and wonder where it went and why you did it.
My 10th: I got her a diamond ring. You know the type - with three stones for past, present and of course the future together (rather large ones, I spent more than I should have - I was in love afterall, LOL). She got me a shirt. Should have realized something was up. That was our last anniversary "together".
At least we each have two wonderful kids FIB.
Hang tough. The sun will come up tomorrow and new adventures await. Your road ahead is still a hard one but it will smooth before you relalize it.
Although I have some horrible financial stuff, I feel good of late. I have found another book to read (what else?). I also have a friend in NYC and we are dedicated to coming thru this shining.
I had a great Saturday last week with my kids...between an evening BBQ at my friends and coaching them/games..it was a nice day.
I feel in much better control. I do not fear my STBXW. I do not ask anymore...I say/tell but do so as respectfully as I can. I almost fell pray to her games....not doing her laundry because she dumps mine out.
I caught myself. What is that? It's BS. In fact...I called her on it:
Me: XXX....I don't expect you to do my laundry or even fold it but I DON'T expect you to dump my wet laundry on the floor. Your laundry is being washed. Please respect me similarly.
Me: XXX...tonite is S8's game. I will take him there after I finish the kid's homework. After the game, you can drive the kids home or for refreshments if you so desire.
I'm done with being pushed around and treated like crap...or any of that crap. She wears sweats now that I told her to stop wearing those short shorts.
Other than that....I still have an angry, nonverbal, defensive, twist-what-I-say..STBXW. I have to play this right since now, it looks like we will be STUCK TOGETHER AT LEAST UNTIL FALL.
(someone play the Six Flags tune with the bald guy..hey Kerry..got a youtube link for that? )
Hangin' in. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Sorry, I know nothing about your sitch, but got the biggest kick out of her wearing sweats now, instead of short shorts! NO IDEA WHAT'S GOING ON, but she's gone from Skank to Fug in one sentence!
What sport do you coach?
Love the backbone! I'm assuming this is new???
I'll catch up on you a little later. Chin up!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Kalni....DB...but don't let life slip by. I agree with Kerry's last post on your thread. I DO need to be careful that I don't turn into the 'scorned husband' and spit forth doom and gloom to everyone else. It's just a terrible thing tho', when, we are stuck out of fear and get played for the 'cheeseless tunnel' stuff here...where the cheese is THERE and is LIMBURGER. Clearly, any spouse that is still in the house, is NOT abusive and vindictive and is NOT cheating....deserves time to straighten out and/or see your changes.
To mindblank...W was wearing VS short shorts in the house with Ug boots in the mornings. Didn't want my son to see her crack or my daughter to keep seeing the tattoo. Drew a line...she is now wearing sweats.
I asst coach my son's baseball team and I am the head coach for girl's lacrosse, K thru 2. After playing 13 years of head crushing lacrosse, it was a challenge to 'tone it down' and learn to coach little girl's. I'm having fun...especially since my D5 is on the team.
OK...the new book I am reading is No Nore Mr. Nice Guy (it's not what it sounds like). I am always trying to do things to come up smelling nicer after all this is done.
Yes...it appears that my divorce won't be over until some time in fall. Figure the next court meeting is now June 9th and we haven't even started talking custody issues yet since my financial appraisal isn't done.
As most can see...my posts have slowed up. I keep off the PC at home for privacy reasons and typing on a Blackberry is a pain. Tuesday mornings are my catch up day. I imagine that pretty soon I will wind things down here. There is too much pain. I stay to try and help others still and offer some clarity that I now have. DB kept my sanity thru the worst parts of this but also kept me from filing when I should have. I don't regret that per se, just some of my behavior that enabled her...and not drawing boundaries earlier (like that would have stopped her anyway).
Ironic how I used to look forward to the key turning in the door...the garage door coming up....etc. Now....I dread to turn the corner and see her car parked in the driveway. Today, I was sorting thru some old cell phone messages. I saved some of my son where he still sounds like a baby. I also have 2-3 of XXX...talking to me normally, kindly, laughing...like I was...her....husband.
Soon...I will delete these from my phone.
Strength and honor. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
FIB, some of us have been around long enough to be able to tell the difference between people talking out of anger and hurt and people that despite their anger and hurt say things for what they are...
In my case my H is not living with us although we are supposaly piecing, is not vindictive and I dont think he is cheating anymore. Ohhh I forgot to say, he also doesnt love me... K
