WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 8

[confusedinpa]

Remember that triangle of Nice Guy, Jerk, and Integrated Man?

Be that Integrated Man.

Whenever you have contact with her, treat her like someone you respect and care about a lot. Be a gentleman. Be strong, confident, someone she would want to be around BUT...do not give her that luxury. Minimal contact/be at your most attractive.

As little contact as you can manage, but high quality when you do.

Don't be cold to her. Be BRIEFLY friendly, upbeat, supportive. Then say "okay I gotta run, I am meeting a friend" etc.

Emphasis on BRIEF.

SF,

Thanks for the reminder - I'm going have to go back to your original post and reread it. That was a great analogy.

Guess I was taking Dark/Dim too far to the point of even when I saw her or she called/emailed me.

I had a good lunch with her. We talked about the prep work for the B'day party and who was going to take care of what. Then we did chit chat about various other things (she did most of the chit chatting about work and other stuff).

We shall see how it goes.

Thanks again for checking in.