Roger that. Let's see, today, I have not cried or obsessed over what the wife is doing and I feel a lot better.
Just got back from the gym and I think I know who the OM is. Something just clicked in my brain. I remember the wife telling me about an Army Major she was working out with and oh, wait, since I've been back, she hasn't been working out with him. She told me before also that she thought I should get a flattop again as she thought it looked good. She also told me personal stuff about him like Major XXXXXX is going out of town this weekend, meeting the wife and kids and going to DisneyWorld. Well, it hit me when I was working out. I saw this guy, carrying an Army backpack, a little older--mid 40's and he kept looking at me--hopefully he's not gay. Now I don't have proof but a lot of things my wife told me make me believe that this is a possibility. She shared personal stuff with him and what's that I keep reading about friends of the opposite sex? Something else she said about this guy--he's PCSing in Oct and he's going some place we can't go. The only thing to do is to look up his name and see if his wife is listed in the global email as a Col. I'm almost willing to bet.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!