Stress, WAW and life in general II

[AJM]

Journal Update:
Last night W wanted to talk. This was after she got her national boards scores back and passed. She told me many times she didn't know what she would do if she had not passed. She did not have to worry about that. She does have to worry about passing her classes.
She talked about our neighbors. They're separating for the second time. In W's mind it's because of money. I see it differently. Her running buddy emailed me yesterday as well so I told her about it. His wife just left him. W thinks she should be medicated. Hm.... He wants to talk with me so I told her about it to be sure she was cool with my meeting with her friends. I'm taking him shooting most likely We also talked about some others that are getting separated etc. What? Is something in the water?
What caught my attention was her talking about us. She asked me several times if I wanted her to come with us for the family vacation. She thought I might hate her by the end of the summer, but if I did she would view that as a light at the end of the tunnel. She also asked me to get her school money transferred to the new account so she can move out. Today she was joking this morning at breakfast. She then called me later telling me we should go to the movies as a family on Sat vs. Tonight because she thinks we should talk to the kids (I said we'd talk to the therapist) and because my son wants to have a friend sleep over Saturday night. Confusing, but I think she just needs to get out and wants it done before going back to school. No thought to anything else at this point. I was encouraged by the hopefulness in her voice about life in general. And also how she is starting to push needy people away from her. People ask her for advice and she's starting to push them away and deal with her own issues. I think the time at the beach gave her quiet time to think about some things.
I suspect that in the end, she needs some time to work through a lot of things. She has been blaming me for her unhappiness and is starting to get to a point where she cannot do that anymore.

I took the family out for dinner last night to celebrate her passing the boards. Been very congratulatory for her. Praising. Showing my support of her good work.

I think my biggest issue right now is going to be the explanation to the kids and the setting and timing of that. They need to know I didn't want this and that I am working on things with their mother. We haven't given up but she feels she needs to move out.

AJ