Newly separated...spouse left, 3rd thread

[antlers]

Hi Antlers, just wanted to drop by and see about ya. That was good what you said about the people on this board. I feel the same way. You know, I truly believe that those who stick with the board and work at what the advice they are given, that they do become better people. The marriage may make it or it may not, but the person becomes better. A lot of people whose M did not make it b/c their spouse went through with the D, are still around giving help to others. I think that is great b/c they could chose to leave here bitter and resentful, but they have learned to be survivors and their hearts do finally learn to detach. You asked in your last thread how do you detach mentally? You mentioned "time"......and I think that is the answer. Although I have not had to go through that, I believe from what I have read others say, that "time" is the answer. You will make it Antlers. You have what it takes not to give up. You are a worker and you are a survivor! Hope you will stay around here with us helping others along the way as you grow yourself.

Sandi

Hi Sandi. I think we'll become better people too! Sticking with the board is really helpful and supportive, and working at the advice we are given is hard and painful. We all want our marriages to make it. Learning to detatch is hard!

Thanks for the positive strokes!

Kids are going out of town with their mom for the weekend, and I'm gonna work all weekend. It'll most likely be a peaceful weekend for me. Sometimes communication, via text, with their mom is all business...other times it's full of anger and resentment on her part. When I say things like "I see how you could feel that way" or "I understand that you feel that way" it pisses her off. She describes it as 'nauseating' and 'disgusting'.

Should I continue to validate her feelings?