Thanks for the input, to be clear, I really don't think she is having an EA or PA at this time, even though I really can't 'prove' that, but there are no signs at all she is in that space.

She is just stating she is not in love with me anymore, and doesn't see herself ever loving me in that way again.

She's always around the kids, and at home, rarely goes out, works with my daughter at home.

I also have to trust her answer that she is not, when I have asked her, I also asked the counselor about this when I was by myself, and she agrees that there does not seem to be any other EA/PA for her..

M: 41
STBXW: 41
D: 9
Bomb: 4/26/09

On board the D train now..

"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."