WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 8

[confusedinpa]

Well, it started really early this morning at 6:18 AM with contact from the wife.

"Sometime this week I would like to talk to u about the kids b day party...maybe lunch time or after the kids go to bed"

I wound up replying to her text from this morning that I couldn't do lunch today or tomorrow, but could Thurs. Not sure if that was the right move or not......

Looks like we're going to do lunch today.

I want to just keep the conversation strictly about planning the B'day party, but I know she will be chit chatting about other stuff. I don't want to come accross as a cold jerk again, but don't know how to be Dark/Dim otherwise.

I reread DB last nite and it said don't be cold or a jerk, but didn't get much more beyond that in the LRT section. Any suggestions? I'm going to meet her for lunch in an hour...