I am still here and I need some HELP

[JMC]

Hope things are going better for you Whitney. Your comment about the best and worst thing to ever happen reminded me of something a friend said to me upon hearing of my separation. He himself is on his second marriage, and had no kids from his first marriage. I do not know too many details regarding his first M, but he told me that someone said to him "this may be the best worst thing that ever happens to you."

It is always amazing to me, and I share this thought with my friends who have no clue, that there are so many people going through, or already have gone through, this process and that so many of the stories are the same. MLC is like a checklist. An acquaintance at church told me a year ago that his W wanted him to move out. I relayed to him much of what I have learned and he kept saying 'yeah, she did say that, and I do think there is an OM, etc..'

I very much miss my family. I have a wonderful grown D (adopted my ex's daughter, but she IS my daughter) with whom I have a great relationship, but I still miss doing things as a family with her mother involved. Regardless, it sometimes is comforting to know there are others out there going through the same thing, and I keep telling myself that God would not give me something I could not handle.