Tomorrow is D-Day

[JMC]

Hope everything went as best as it could for you. I did not need to be in court either. In fact, I did not find out I was legally divorced until two or three weeks later when I inquired myself. For whatever reason I, like you, 'want to continue the battle' as well. I just can not believe this is what she really wants.

I can so relate to your comment regarding others not understanding and making comments about forgetting her and getting another girl. My ex-w is also in MLC land, and whenever I mention that to others I quickly go over the three legs to the stool - childhood issues (pregnant at 17 and having her own mother die at the same time), life changing event (empty nest syndrome), and hormonal (hysterectomy in this case) - as I am sure others are thinking I am crazy and simply making excuses. I know I was that way before this happened to me. There is a post by, I believe, Michele in the Infidelity forum that makes the point that we all say "I would never put up with that" until it happens to us.

Hope you are doing ok. As I guess you can tell, this forum does not get as much action as some of the others. I only come by here every now and then anymore, and did not check out this site at all for several months. I have gotten closer to God and try and stay busy, and while realizing my faults in the M, I also now know there are elements involved that are beyond my control and not my fault.