WAW/Affair Exposed - Advice? #3

[DCBHM]

I know I'm a very unusual person in the sense that I'm a bit too honest sometimes. I feel awful if I hold in a secret or lie about anything. So the first thing I did when I walked into my lawyer's office, my preacher's office, and my therapist's office was unload everything that pertained to my situation, including all skeletons that might be brought out of my closet.

That bugs the heck out of W's family because they can't blackmail me by threatening to reveal anything because they know that I truly don't care. The person who cares least in that sort of situation seems to be in the stronger position.

MIL actually criticized me for "getting to the preacher first" because I basically told him everything I had done, and when MIL called to play the blame game he told her he already knew about it. They can't stand a loss of control.

They attempt to micromanage and choreograph each interaction on the tactical level to push "their" version of events - and I'm playing grand strategy and piecing together the larger picture. So while they say "Oh we'll just say you were getting him to fix your car" I'm documenting and recording the other times she's been there, the fact she wasn't outside nor was he while her car was parked there "getting fixed" and our interactions where I asked her nicely to please respect our M enough to at least keep it out of my back yard.

I've now introduced a bit of conflict in the A - so we'll see how it plays out. The biggest threat for me right now is MIL/W getting desperate and attempting to fake an interaction/threat/etc. to get "something" on me.

It is a matter of when, not if I have the following happen:
1. restraining order
2. allegations of child molesting
3. allegations of abuse

I'm being proactive as I can to document and record everything - but I never know what to expect and hope they'll pick something I can easily disprove.