The adventure continues- part 4

[AFWAW]

Lucky,
You have some very strong points however at this point I'm not sure what I want. On the one hand, I still love my wife and would like very much to get back together with her. On the other, as you so eloquently stated there are some good reasons to just move on. You of all people(a person that acts out from the heart)must have some understanding why I would want to save my marriage and rebuild it to be stronger.

She has disrespected you and has squandered her body among several men outside the marriage. She is stringing you along, playing you the fool and the chump. She is STILL WITH OM - believe it. Where is your pride and self respect? Do not allow this for one second longer. Do not wait.

You're absolutely right! That doesn't make it easy to take her back if she decides she wants to really commit to our marriage again. She may still be w/ the OM. I believe you may be right. I think my trip to her apartment will tell me all I need to know. It will tell me if she truly has dumped OM and is seriously considering coming home or and as I suspect you and everyone else is correct that she is playing me for a fool.

If the latter is the case then I will more than likely file next week as I have plenty of reasons. I am an optimist believe it or not(I know you probably cannot tell based on my posts)and want to believe that she has dumped him though.

What would you say to your brother or your best friend if he was in your situation? What would you think of him if you saw him sitting there letting life happen to him?

I would tell them what my couselor told me--that's a decision you have to make for yourself, no one else can make it for you and you have to live with it. It's not an easy decision--probably will affect me for the rest of my life.

Forget her and move on. Go have fun, look your best, chin up, smile.

I'm halfway there on the latter part of this. The first part is not as easy.