Thx for explaining the fog more; that makes sense. I looked at the infidelity forum. If you can point me to advocates for 'waiting it out' I'd appreciate that.
FIL is encouraging H to talk with me and the kids, but has no idea if/when that will happen. FIL also said the way my BF got into H's face about not talking to the kids wasn't helpful and in fact probably pushing him further away.
I can't control how other people relate to H. Just how I handle things, and I believe waiting it out and taking this time to work on me is the best way to proceed. Hopefully the A will end sooner rather than later, and maybe the fog will lift.
