Gucci is telling the truth about women. We need our men to lead and to dictate the tone of the marriage. If you start LIVING YOUR LIFE FOR YOU, you will be so attractive to all women (not just her, though it is starting to baffle me that you would want her back).
You and I share a similar trait. We aren't strategic thinkers with regard to relationships. We are only able to act out the truth in our heart. This is why, I think, you are having trouble thinking about what to say in the moment. The only way that you are going to act out Gucci's suggestions is to MOVE ON in your heart.
Allow me to help you do that.
She has disrespected you and has squandered her body among several men outside the marriage. She is stringing you along, playing you the fool and the chump. She is STILL WITH OM - believe it. Where is your pride and self respect? Do not allow this for one second longer. Do not wait.
What would you say to your brother or your best friend if he was in your situation? What would you think of him if you saw him sitting there letting life happen to him?
Forget her and move on. Go have fun, look your best, chin up, smile.
Get in the headspace so that your truth in your heart matches Gucci's advice. It shouldn't be that hard based on her behavior.
