The adventure continues- part 4

[AFWAW]

Who are you? Where do you get this stuff and why the hell didn't I have this info when I needed it 10 years ago? Seriously, this is good stuff. You should write a book--you'd make millions.

Fear will paralyze you.

I have pondered over what my marriage was like before and have realized that my wife is/was a bully and I lived in fear of pissing her off. Not a good way to live, I know. I have shared less and less about my feelings with her and hear you loud and clear about NOT sharing my feelings with her at this point.

Of course you don't know how you feel. Tell her that when SHE opens the door again. We are not worried about what you really feel, what the concern is has to be how SHE feels and how to "help" her to start thinking different thoughts (and her conversation with you revealed that she was beginning to sort through those things. That was because you were NOT chasing and asking if she has made up her mind.)

Ok, I will tell her that the next time the opportunity presents itself.

You have been in a panic type mode. The reason was because she hadn't called you. She WILL call.

You're right! I have been in panic mode. I didn't believe you before but based on yesterdays phone call, I am now a major believer in the gucci philosophy.

Believe me when I say, with every day that goes by, I find myself thinking about what life would be like without her and what I'm going to do. I'm not sitting around tomorrow night, I'm actually going out w/ some folks from work. So, gucci, thanks again for your words of wisdom.

I do have a hard time believing you on that one. The last few days you have become wishy washy and suddenly were acting like you were going to panic. There is no panic here. We WANT HER TO PANIC.

I am actually going to go out tomorrow night and shoot pool. I am feeling better today. Remember, it's only been a little while since I've learned the horrible truth and it's taken me some time to get through the emotions.

You either get busy living or get busy dying......Women are attracted to men like this... Confident, secure, high self esteem (bordering on cocky) funny, emotionally strong,and ones that DO NOT ALLOW unaccetable behavior. A man who has no second thoughts about turning the other way and showing her that I am valuable. I will NOT share my love with a third person in the picture. If THAT is what you choose, then so be it, but you CAN NOT have me too. I will be perfectly fine without you, and as a matter of fact, this may be for the best. There are PLENTY of women that would looooooovvvve to have a man like me.... (you then go find one

You are truly a man wise about women. I can see multiple mistakes that I have made over the years and now realize that I have major self-esteem issues. I will continue to work on this and fine tune my approach and responses to interactions with the wife and other women in the future. You have given me a lot to think about. Thanks again for your wise words.

John