I think what OT is saying is you need to step it up, shake things up a bit. Maybe it will help, maybe not. But Only you can make that choice, you know her better than us. I personally think it may help a bit, considering the fact that you will be taking the "reins" so to speak. Maybe that is what she wants.
I can't figure her out, but OT did make a good point about her having the A to begin with.
The worse that could happen is that she will say no, and really, like Rob said, its her loss!!!
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