going to fix...I can hear your hear breaking in your words, and it breaks mine, too. I wish I could comfort, there is just no words that can do that. :0(
I guess the least I can do is offer to you that I made the same types of mistakes...I mothered and nagged, didn't want to, didn't mean to, always just wanted him to man up...but it made him hate me slowly over time and I didn't read M/V until after we were divorced. So I messed up to the extent that it cost me my marriage, too, in lots and lots of ways, and I know the anguish that comes when you have to realize "wow, if I had only (fill in the blank) or did not (fill in the blank) instead of thinking this was all his fault...." and you blew an entire marriage just due to youth and ignorance of basic gender and love languages differences....ouch. I was where you are at a time, it sucked.
Having said that, no more books to him, ok? I was a loving gesture but he probably won't interpret it that way. Maybe some day there will be another chance but for now, no more attempts to reach out to him like that...just pray for yourself, your kids, him, and even for ex-gf-ow...they are both in for more pain down the line than they have any clue of.
future...
Can you share specifically what her complaints were about lack of intimacy? (Without obvious details, just the basic ideas).
And you say you've heard her and OM broke up. Am I clear on the fact that they were only physically together once that you know of? Also, how reliable is your source that they "broke up"? When she began her A online, was it through just chatting or something?
I'll answer depending on your answers here.
Sorry you find yourself here...everyone...its all so sad. DQ
