thanks for replying, she recommended that i need to be more firm with her, make her respect me more, also she recommended i make her miss me which im assuming means going dark. She told me i need to figure out where i will be happy ohio or chicago.
My problem is with her wanting to be friends and all i feel that is a big step, but how do i go dark without losing that friendship.
Im really confused i dont really know what she is trying to tell me it almost seems like some of this is related to her staying in ohio another year like she doesnt want me to come there but be here when she is done. But she made it clear that she wants to be best friends? And if i try to get back with her at all that stops
So when i was in ohio W was complaining to me that she had to go in debt to get furniture for her appt. LOL!!!! Wow she was so pissed she even told me "well atleast you dont have to go out and buy new furniture". No i dont she is just leaving me with every unpaid for asset we aquired together. So i feel bad about her spending that 2k on furniture, then I look at what she left me with 200k mortgage,Car payments, utilties, credit cards. Funny thing is this is the house she had to have, now that she has it she doesnt want it.
Best part it I told her i was thinking of selling the house and she replyed with "even if i stay in ohio for 1 more year im coming back to chicago just not with you" .....so am i supposed to pinch pennys and dig a whole for myself just praying she is gonna come back to me in another year.
Im just so tired of being alone ive been alone for 10mos waiting for her to comeback from internship. And now with 2mos left she tells me this she aint coming home.
wow awesome day...i went to the bank to discuss my options with the house. The mortgage broker that my mortgage is thru basically told me that right now is a very bad time to sell since the home values have dropped so much i would probably come out upside down on my mortgage if i sold meaning i would have to pay. And she said not sure if i can refinance due to the fact that we bought with 0%down so not much equity. So basically even if i wanted to sell the house to go to ohio, i cant. Im stuck here. The W text me to tell me about her job interview, so she told me they were vaige and didnt tell her much, she asked how my day was so i text her back crappy and she asked why i told her why and her response simply was "Im Sorry"
Im Sorry.......i came here 425 miles from my family to be with her, she wanted a house I got it for her, she had to leave to go to internship i told her i did not want to be alone she told me i had to stay with the house, and i have been alone for 10mos waiting for her. And that whole time she had all her family and mine and her friends to be with. Me Alone, now that she left me she has all her family and friends, Me Alone
I'm sorry you are feeling so down. I wish you peace in your heart.
"It is excruciating pain. It is the pain of separation, the pain of loss, the pain of dreams and expectations unrealized. It is the loss and death of a mirage."
I understand how you feel alone. I too move so far away from my family and friends to be with my H. And then after we moved several times for his job. Now I am living in a place I know almost no one and most of the friends I did know we met thru H's work so now they don't speak to me. He says its too 'awkward' because of what is happening between us. I am trying my best to make new friends and meet new people and making the most of the few connections I have here. Maybe if you can do the same it might help you keep busy and feel less alone. I know it sounds like a lot when you are feeling this bad but it may help some.
When things always seem really bad for me I just tell myself 'it can only get better from here'
keep your chin up.
Last edited by hopeful_cb; 05/02/0905:53 PM.
Me-27 H-28 M-2.5 yrs T-8.5 yrs No kids B 1/09 S 2/09
