Director of my D daycare wanted to talk to me today. Said she has heard about my situation and that she is sorry then proceeds to tell me that she thinks it might be a blessing in disguise. (not what i was trying to hear but we are friends with them i know she had good intentions...) Tells me that she thinks that she got the impression that W has found somebody else. (still dont believe that is the case, i did not see the signs of it and her actions while she visited 2 weeks ago didnt show it, Plus like i said before i honestly beleive she would just tell me that) anyways...tells me that she believes that D is better off in my care due to my W's personal issues and that my daughter behaves better and seems happier since my wife has been gone. (dont completly agree with that either) Is more well behaved i think but i have always been the one to be the disciplned one. She also said W is making a big mistake and she really believes that my W will eventually realize this will regret what she did, be very unhappy, and wont be able to handle everything and i will end up with my D anyways.
So... then W text me ask me to call her so D could talk to her before she gets to sleepy. I call her for D and use this oppurtunity to talk to her about the dogs. (didnt know if this was a good idea but i had to make a decision tonight dogs are currently still at the pound from being picked up and i have to call first thing in the morning) In a very positive tone i tell her that the dogs were picked up today because 2 of them got out. Said I was thinking about letting them go because of them getting out and asked her what she thinks about it since one of them was her dog. She said, you already know how I feel about it and says she thinks it is the best thing to do, then tells me that she already said goodbye to her dog for some reason (I know what it was). I told her she was right that nobody needed this added stress (had the dogs for 4 and 5 years still couldnt get them to behave 3rd dog is great though...). She said she felt bad for D but at least she still had the other dog. She suggested that i ask the person i got one of the dogs from if he wanted her back rather than leave her at the pound i said that was a good idea and i would call him tomorrow. So... told D mommie was on the phone all of a sudden D was saying "I dont want to". W asked to be put on speaker phone called D her pet name and with this miserable face D repeats that she didnt want to.(i felt bad) W playfully called her a punk, then told me she was working on accounting assignment and that it was really hard. i just acknolodge what she said and then told her that i would give her a call when D wanted to talk. She said dont hesitate to call when she wants to talk again. then says cause she didnt want to miss her wanting to talk. I said ok, bye.
W sounded very content on the phone kinda gave me mixed feelings it didnt sound like any of this was affecting her but it also made me feel good cause she was so pleasant to talk to on the phone.
I feel really bad about the dogs I liked having them but they did cause alot of problems money wise, property wise, and alot of stress in our M. Before ive told W i would not get rid of the dogs for any reason and stood my ground on that. But it caused several fights or was used as ammo by her in several fights. I will find them a home tomorrow then give the people the money to go to the pound and pick them up. I dont want anything bad to happen to them but i do think this is better for everyone. Hope i did the right thing...
BIL called me again today I kinda broke down for a second with the dogs, the W, everything thats going on. I had a moment, this situation can really do a number on a person. I'm usually the guy everyone goes to, to get all the advice and fix problems and now im having trouble with handling this.
